Is it your first time dating Colombian women?
Not to worry, they aren’t much different from other women. While there might be some key differences and even some things you need to remember so you don’t offend her, all women are still the same. Same with men, really. If you’re scared of messing things up, there’s no need to fret. We all get nervous and no one is a master at relationships.
It has to be asked first though. What do you want in a Colombian?
Define What You Want In A Relationship
And this is a fundamental rule to follow before starting any relationship. If you’ve moved on from your first, you should know not to choose a woman solely on the basis of her appearance and attractiveness.
That’s something you save for casual encounters. Focus on her personality and background story if you want a true partner with whom you can develop a relationship and possibly a family.
For the ones that are only in it for “fun”, you might have to think twice. Or at least be wary. Not saying all Colombians are like this but if your main objective for a woman is her attractiveness, then you may end up with a lighter wallet or be forced to get your credit card for the “fun” to continue.
Sure, she may look hot, is both smart and caring and has a smile that excites you, but if your prime objective is only her physical features, then you might end up with a gold digger. Best not to play around with building up a family.
If you do get to go on a great first date with such a woman, then do so and be nice if you do. You can usually tell what type of woman she is based on her profile photos in online dating sites and apps. If you really want to date a woman in the hopes of starting something serious, then know what you are looking for.
It’s Important That You Know How To Dance
No, this isn’t a joke. One thing that is bound to get you to mess up in a relationship with a Colombian girlfriend is when you can’t move it on the dance floor.
You don’t need to be a master. Learning the basics of Salsa is enough. Just learn the basic steps and try to follow the rhythm of the songs. Focus on the drums for pace and just keep her tight to your body.
Alas, you won’t be judged if you don’t have the natural talent for the dance. Colombians mostly care about the attitude you display. You might not even know how the steps go and it wouldn’t matter as long as you move her around and have a great time doing so. Foreigners are not expected to know how to dance fluidly so there is no judging.
The smiling and giggling that comes out of it will make you look funny, cute and charming. You can use this to your advantage.
Also, there is absolutely no sitting. Nothing turns down a woman more than sitting by the table drinking all night. Personality is what most women want and that is what they are mostly seduced to. Dancing terribly is better than not dancing at all. There is no way you will be messing up dates if you know how to impress her with your mediocre salsa moves. Trust us on this.
Less Talking When Dancing
Since the music is loud, don’t plan to chat about your hobbies or your amazing work. Keep the conversation to the standard “Ueepa!” “You are really attractive” and other flirty lines. The club is a venue for body language, so save your conversation for the morning coffee.
Drink Aguardiente But Don’t Overdo It
If you didn’t know, Aguardiente literally means “hot water” and is Colombia’s national drink. This is alcohol from sugar cane and it’s a very basic alcohol which is extremely strong in both flavor and drunken-ness. Colombians drink it in tiny glass shots and do not even bother doing it for the taste since it really doesn’t taste all that good.
They liken it to drinking antiseptic alcohol and foreigners might just not get it. But drink more than three and there is no beverage in the world that will make you smile more. The odd flavor won’t even bother you after it.
Try to drink aguardiente too if she does. Girls in Colombia often drink “hot water” so don’t be surprised if she takes a sip and seems okay after. This shows that she is a fun-loving young lady.
However, if you are not used to such strong drinks then you might end up finding yourself outside the bar emptying your stomach of its contents. Even if it doesn’t get to this point, the headache will be worse the next morning. It’s not like vodka or tequila. So tread carefully while you’re having fun.
In other words, drink aguardiente but make sure to space out your shots in long terms, especially by the end of the evening. Remember to dance the alcohol off too and don’t stay still or it’ll get worse.
Say Nice Things About Her Beauty And Personality
Latinas will appreciate any nice comment about her as long as you have proven yourself as a nice and enjoyable person. If she smiles widely at you, she is yours. Just do not overdo it and don’t rush. We don’t want you to be too cringey.
If you want to do things right on the get-go, then compliment her when you first meet her.
They like it when you tell them nice things about themselves but don’t be too much. The ideal first date description would be of you and her having a good time, right? So don’t flake out on being a gentleman.
Okay Let’s Be Real, Messing Up Is Inevitable
And that’s okay!
We aren’t perfect and we make mistakes. The best thing about being human is that no matter how many times we fail, we ALWAYS get back up and try again.
Your future Colombian girlfriend is human too and she will understand this. If you mess up, then so will she. Remember that she’s just as nervous as you are during these first meetings and first dates. Colombian women may be amazing and beautiful — almost seemingly TOO perfect — but they’re just like any other woman in the world. If you love each other then messing up is inevitable but hey, at least you’re both together to fix said messes.